I am contributing this blog to aid those who support families with children on the spectrum.  These are thoughts from my experience and may or may not work with your particular situation.  I have found, though, certain things I wish others had known along the way...

My Top Ten Ways to help a Mother with Children on the Spectrum:

Number 1:  Ask, "How can I help?"  This allows mom to show you the best ways.

Number 2:  Ask, "What would you love to have?"  This allows your gift to be well received by all.

Number 3:  Offer to assist with a routine chore that is not easy for mom to accomplish (I.e.  wash dishes, clean car, go grocery shopping, do laundry, have house cleaned)

Number 4:  Offer to take siblings on an outing.  Mom often feels guilty for them.

Number 5:  Offer to pay for skilled child care so mom can exercise, sleep, go on a date with her spouse, etc.

Number 6:  Offer to take pets for a walk or to the groomer.  Mom feels guilty for them, too.

Number 7:  Tell mom she's doing a good job.

Number 8:  Ask how you can support her efforts.  This may mean dietary options, sign language, sensory environment, etc.

Number 9:  Understand when mom can't find the emotional energy for an outing/event.

Number 10:  Demonstrate unconditional love.